You guys, let’s talk about love. And by love I mean LOVE. I mean true, deep, profound, life altering love. How lucky am I that I know that kind of love? I think I may take it for granted sometimes. We experience love on different levels. Love of a parent. Love of a partner. Love of a child. Love of a pet. We share our love, give it freely, a lot of times with no expectations, no strings. I have known love in so many ways throughout my life and for each one I am grateful. Having the ability to love completely and purely is not easy to do in some cases. In relationships we’re often guarded until we know we can fully trust, because heartache is the worst. I’ve been there too. It can be debilitating, but in those times, the times when my heart has been shattered in a million tiny pieces, for whatever reason, I’ve never, ever felt hate.
I don’t think I’ll ever fully comprehend the idea of hate. Of true to the core hatred for another human being (for bananas, yes, but not for people). Especially for someone I don’t even know. And I can’t even comprehend the idea of hating myself so much I would want to hurt someone including myself. We all have our days, the days when we just feel like we’re at our tipping point, when we can’t sometimes get out of bed, because we’ve let the bad seep through and start to brain wash us that it’s easier to give in. It starts from a very young age, I see it with my 10 year old. They get upset when their friends leave them out, they get mad when you reprimand them, they rebel on purpose. To watch this is heart wrenching because all you want to do is hug them and make it okay. You want to fix it, and yet you know you can’t because they have to work it out for themselves. You can listen, you can offer your shoulder and comfort, but you can’t fix it. That’s the hardest part when it comes to love – not being able to fix it when they’re hurting. The you wonder how they’re going to handle heartache or rejection as they get older. You hope that your love will be enough, that the love of the people you surround them with will help sustain their goodness and keep their mindset positive. Being a strong influence in a child’s life is so important and difficult. You want to say the right thing all the time, treat them with kid gloves and yet prepare them for life. Because life can sometimes be hard. I’m not looking forward to my kid’s first bouts of heartache, it will probably be worse for me, but I will help them through it, because I love them with every fiber of my being.
Love comes in all shapes and sizes. It sees no boundaries, it has no color. Love is love. After this last week of sadness and uncertainty, for Pay It Forward Friday – celebrate love. Today I’m celebrating the love of 2 friends who are making their union official and getting married…Congratulations Veronika and Robbie, may your love continue to grow for many, many years!! It’s a beautiful day to be loved.
Go forth and spread some love!!