If you haven’t already seen the essay so beautifully penned by Sheryl Sandberg, then you’re missing out. I saw it on Wednesday while I was sitting in my doctor’s office waiting room to go in for a check up. Let me tell you, that’s the last place I wanted to be reading this brutally honest, heart wrenching, raw commentary on the tragic loss of her beloved husband. I was ugly crying, for real.
Sheryl Sandberg is someone I follow on a regular basis. Smart, beloved by her peers, innovative and creative. She’s a Facebook executive, has 2 beautiful children and a happy marriage to a man who was just as accomplished and revered as she is. They had it all, and then they didn’t. Her writing comes 30 days after losing her (as she calls it) “option A”, after sitting shiva and at the end of sheloshim, the completion of mourning of a spouse in the Jewish faith. As she says in her piece, she will never not mourn her husband, she will never be the same. Ever.
Sheryl’s words are not new to us, she is not the first person to experience sudden loss of a spouse, or the first person who has to continue on raising her children alone. I personally have a few friends and family members who have had to endure this hardship. Every one of them keeps me in awe, in check if you will. They’re why I don’t really have bad days, they’re why my glass is always half full, they’re why I make sure to try every single day to make it a good one. Sheryl’s words only reinforced that for me. They reinforced everything I already knew…not to take others for granted, to be grateful for health, friends and family, to live in the moment, to be cautious but never afraid to take a risk, because it can all be gone in the blink of an eye.
I implore you to read her words, digest them, re-read them…maybe they’ll change your view on something you thought was important but really isn’t in the grand scheme of things. I know every once in a while I need a reminder to keep it real, and this certainly did that for me. Thank you Sheryl Sandberg for your brutal honesty, for sharing your story, your grief and your truth. My heart goes out to you, your children and your loved ones. You will survive but you will never be the same. You will persevere, you will continue to do the amazing work you have been doing and continue making differences in so many lives. You will do this on days when you don’t want to get out of bed, when you wish you had your “old” life back. I don’t know you, but from what I’ve gathered through your words, I know you are not without support. On to “option B”.
Read Sheryl’s words here: https://www.facebook.com/sheryl/posts/10155617891025177:0
Make the most of your day!