Have you ever felt stuck? Personally or professionally or maybe both? During the last several months while I’ve been busy working on reinventing myself, I’ve been referring back to this time last year as “the time I was stuck.” If you had asked me a year ago if I felt stuck I probably would have said no, but now that I’m out of that situation and I’ve had time to think about it, my answer is yes, I was absolutely, 100% completely stuck. And you know what you guys? Being stuck sucks. Period.
My stuck-ness began in my professional life and it eventually started to trickle into my personal side. It was a gradual progression. I know why I stayed in that job, I stayed because it was easy, it was convenient and it was conducive to my schedule and needs. But then it started to get harder and harder to go into the office. I didn’t agree with stuff going on organizationally and at the same time, I was exposed to things going on that were ethically questionable. When I raised a red flag and spoke out, no one really listened. That’s when I started to really hate my position. It was uncomfortable. It was hard to watch. And to be perfectly honest it was disgusting to be around. What a horrible feeling, and it’s certainly no way to live. It was taking it’s toll on me, keeping me up at night, making me miserable.
Once I realized that it was affecting my personal life, I knew there was no choice. I couldn’t keep taking out my unhappiness on my family. I had to stop nit picking everything my husband and kids were doing that drove me crazy. I had to stop crying in the shower because I felt overwhelmed. I just didn’t know how to make it better, and for someone like me, who is used to being the go-to person to make things better, it was uncharted territory. Thank God for my husband and for his understanding and support. I’m pretty sure watching me go through this phase was not easy for him and when I finally exploded and it all came to a head his one response to me was “a paycheck is not worth all of this misery”…he got it. He was the one I needed the validation from to do what I had wanted to do – walk away. He told me to take the leap, to make the change. I will be forever thankful for those words of encouragement and support, they changed my life.
It’s been one full year since I made the final decision to get unstuck from that situation. Six months have gone by since I last collected a paycheck from a mega corporation. Not one second of regret has gone by…NOT ONE. I can sleep. I wake up knowing every day is mine and I’m in charge of it. I know it’s ok to be afraid of the unknown but I also know this is the most exciting time of my life. I’m running the show, I’m working to fulfill my dream and follow my passion. And the best part is that I have the support to keep me going.
Getting unstuck is not easy, it doesn’t happen overnight but I can tell you this…It will happen. I have learned so much in such a short time it’s really quite unbelievable, and now I get to help others find their joy, find their passion, get unstuck. You can do it too, you just have to believe it. And if I can help in any way, I’ll be here when you’re ready to take the leap.